It’s been an incredible year in karate for Paul Sweetow, local psychotherapist and karate teacher. He completed his first 3-peat by winning his third consecutive Gold Medal in the AAU National Karate Tournament held in Raleigh, NC this past July. And recently, he came home... READ MORE
Strategies for your child that work and only take minutes to learn and use. Spend one minute to learn how to help and impulsive child with “Predict The Outcome” or help reduce frustration by learning to put problems in perspective with “Big Problem/Little... READ MORE
Compassion and the Warrior’s Heart I often talk about living a warrior’s life, but for the most part, this has nothing to do with fighting. I believe everyone can benefit from the ancient wisdom of the Bushido code, which asks us to live with courage and honor—but also with... READ MORE
The Beauty of Detachment We often use the word detachment in a negative context in the United States, discussing it as it relates to depression, to disengaging from or becoming indifferent to the things that were once important to us. But today, I want to discuss detachment as... READ MORE
We hold up unconditional love as the gold standard in our society: a bond so strong that nothing can break it, and virtually nothing must be done to maintain it. But I don’t think unconditional love should exist. Think I’m being cynical? Imagine a woman saying of her husband, “I... READ MORE
Focus on What You Can Control One look around will tell you that we, as a society, are plagued by anxiety. Anxiety is a deep, biological response to stress and isn’t in and of itself a bad thing. It’s a necessary impulse that tells us we’re in danger, and it shouldn’t be ignored.... READ MORE
When facing a big decision, it’s easy to get stuck. When you’re trying to gather your courage to take a big risk, it can seem counterintuitive to start thinking about everything that might go wrong, but I often encourage my clients to do exactly that. Considering the worst... READ MORE
The Paradox of Perfectionism I received an insightful letter from a reader last week. He was wondering what advice I have for dealing with the perfectionism that he sees plaguing so many kids and adults around him. He rightly pointed out that many of us become so convinced by our... READ MORE
Meaningful Motivation: Ask Why Most of us have clear enough goals for ourselves: to find fulfilling work, have a happier marriage, or build a closer bond with our children. Often these goals remain in the abstract while the days and years pass us by and we never find ourselves... READ MORE
